How to manager stress after the age of 50 .............
Stress doesn’t rise or diminish over our lifetime, it simply changes in its causes and its nature. We can’t stress-proof our life, unfortunately, but we can learn how to deal with it in the best way possible.
Here, we explore how to cope with the pressures brought on by being in your 50s to your 70s and beyond.
50s
“Divorce and health problems — either for yourself or your parents — can be common triggers for stress at this age,” says cognitive behavioural therapist Mansukhani.
“What really helps is to make a tiny bit of time for yourself,” she says. “I know it can feel impossible, especially when you have a family, but carving out an hour a week to do something just for you can make a big difference.”
She also recommends seeking out a support group if you are dealing with something such as a parent with Alzheimer’s. “Talking to others in a similar position can be really powerful,” she adds.
When life is challenging, sleep can be the first thing we compromise on, but according to researcher Dr Storoni it’s worth prioritising — and in particular watching our exposure to too much light at night.
“It delays the production of melatonin (a hormone which helps us sleep), which affects the amount of REM sleep we get.
Studies suggest that this stage of sleep helps us to process negative experiences we’ve had during the day.”
She recommends stopping using technology two hours before bed, including your mobile phone.
“If you absolutely have to use technology in the evening, wear blue-light blocking glasses,” she adds.
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60s
“We tend to assume that the retirement years are relaxing, but it’s not that straightforward,” says Dr Kang.
Retirement ranks as the 10th most stressful of all life events, according to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, a tool developed by psychiatrists in the Sixties for measuring how stressed someone is likely to be and their risk of illness as a result.
“Retiring may be stressful because it can feel like our identity is being taken away from us and there can be a loss of purpose,” Dr Kang explains.
The key, she says, is to have a plan. “I find that whether or not someone has made a plan, based on what’s important to them now — whether it’s travelling, being there for the grandchildren, or even continuing to work on a more casual, part-time basis — determines whether these years are a very rewarding time or very stressful.”
Unfortunately, retirement may also collide with other life events that rank among the most stressful, such as serious illness, children leaving home, downsizing or moving house, the death of a family member or close friends, change of health or behaviour of a family member, or — most stressful of all — the death of a spouse. Learning a new skill can be a surprisingly effective tactic for coping with stressful situations.
“There is emerging evidence that if you pursue a new challenge and you achieve incremental mastery in that field, then that actually helps you cope with the pressures in a different domain of your life,” explains neuroscientist Dr Storoni.
It could be any new hobby, learning a new language, or taking up a physical challenge, such as a race or charity walk. “The key is that you are becoming better at something.”
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70s & beyond
“Feeling withdrawn and less enthusiastic about things and ruminating more can all be signs of psychological stress,” says Dr Kang, with loneliness likely to be key stressors at this age.
But we can shift the way we feel about loneliness, says cognitive behavioural therapist Mansukhani (pictured below).
“Just because you’re alone, doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. Think about what you would really like to do with your time.”
“Imposing some structure can be really helpful when you’re feeling depressed or lacking in purpose,” she adds.
“Plan your day and aim to get up and go to bed at the same time, decide on set times you’re going to have your meals, then start slotting in other activities, such as a walk, gardening or joining a club.”
Getting outside is, in itself, a natural stress reliever. Dr Storoni says: “Some early studies suggest that contact with nature can improve mental wellbeing and can have measurable effects on our stress response, such as cortisol levels.”
Even if you’re stuck indoors, just listening to nature sounds can help. “One small study found that if you’re in a waiting room, for example, you’ll be measurably calmer if you listen to nature sounds — such as ocean waves — than if you listen to other kinds of music or no music at all.”
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Mental health as you get older
Retirement is a life stage many of us look forward to. Without the pressures of work, there’s more time to spend on hobbies, family, friends and travel.
But for some, later life isn’t the joyous time they dreamed of. If depression, anxiety and stress are affecting your life, there are many things you can try that can help.
Data from relevant charities shows that half of adults aged 65 and over have experienced common mental health problems such as depression and anxiety. These, along with dementia, are now the three major mental issues facing people as they age.
Yet many older people are still reluctant to open up about their mental health.
In recent years there’s been nothing short of a cultural revolution in our willingness to be open about mental ill health, which is an essential pre-condition to people getting help, but it is one that may well have left many older people behind. They grew up in an era when there was a real stigma associated with mental illness and, for many, these attitudes are deeply engrained.
There’s a widespread lack of awareness about effective treatments, beyond ‘taking pills’, which many older people feel they do quite enough of already. And finally, it is understandable if a lot of older people, having seen so much and having experienced so many ups and downs through life, take the view that feeling depressed or anxious is just something they have to put up with, not illnesses that are deserving of a proper medical response.
Bereavement, divorce, their own ill health or that of their partners or other family members, isolation and financial worries are the most common triggers for mental health problems. These can lead to loneliness and mental distress.
Depression
The most common mental disorder in older people is depression. Nearly half of adults (7.7million) aged over 55 say they have experienced depression. Symptoms include low mood, reduced enjoyment, lack of energy, low self-esteem, feelings of hopelessness, lack of appetite, weight loss, disrupted sleep patterns and poor concentration.
How to get help
One of the best ways to combat depression is to make sure you have someone to talk to. You may feel like keeping to yourself, especially when your mood is low, but it is important to stay in touch with friends and family. Charities have helplines you can call for advice.
Exercising for as little as 20 minutes a day can help lift your mood, so get out in the fresh air. You may be tempted to ‘drown your sorrows’ by excessive drinking but this can lead to you feeling more depressed, so watch your alcohol intake. Best of all is to make sure you have a routine to stick to during the day, with regular meal and bedtimes.
Don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor because there are many medications and therapies available. Depression and anxiety in people over 55 can often go unnoticed and untreated. Older people mustn’t miss out on help and treatment because of a ‘stiff upper lip’ approach to dealing with problems, or because they aren’t offered or don’t know where to go for help.
Anxiety
Like depression, anxiety is very common in retirees, and people can often suffer from the two problems together. In the UK alone around 7.3 million people say they have suffered from anxiety. However, the real figure may be larger than this because older adults tend to emphasise physical problems rather than mental symptoms. Women in this age group are more likely to be diagnosed with an anxiety disorder than men.
Symptoms of anxiety can include a general feeling of unease or that you’re losing control, sweating, trembling or shaking, shortness of breath and feeling sick. If anxiety becomes extreme it can lead to panic attacks. These usually last between 5 to 30 minutes and can be very frightening.
How to get help
If you’re feeling anxious there are many ways you can treat the issue. Try talking about your feelings to a friend or family member. Mindfulness techniques such as meditation and breathing exercises can make you feel calmer while eating regular meals will keep your blood and energy levels stable.
Take some exercise such as running, walking, swimming or yoga to help you relax, while joining a group or club will help with feelings of loneliness or isolation.
If none of this helps, you need to talk to your doctor about how you are feeling. They can prescribe medication or a talking therapy such as counselling. Research has shown older people respond extremely well to talking therapies.
Dementia
This condition can affect a person’s memory, thinking, problem-solving, concentration and perception. Around 850,000 people in the UK have dementia and your chance of developing the disease increases as you age. One in 14 people over 65 years has dementia, and 1 in 6 people over the age of 80. It’s also more common in women than men .
People with dementia can become confused and some also become restless or irritable, tearful or agitated which can be very distressing.
Dementia is progressive, which means the symptoms will get worse over time although the severity of symptoms can vary from day to day. However, many people living with dementia lead active and fulfilling lives for many years, although they often need special support.
How to get help
With dementia, it's essential to get an early diagnosis in order to get the best treatment, so do speak to your doctor or a specialist health and social care professional as soon as you notice any symptoms. Although there is no cure, there are medications that can slow the progress of the disease and relieve some of the symptoms. Your doctor will also be able to arrange a memory assessment session and a care plan which should be reviewed at least once a year.
There are lots of things people with dementia can do to live as well as possible. It’s important to stay positive and focus on the things you can still do and enjoy. Try to stay active and keep in touch with people. This can help you to retain your skills and memory, as well as improve your self-esteem, sleep and wellbeing. Wherever possible, keep doing what you enjoy, even if you have to do it a little differently.
Mental health, how to help yourself
One in five older people living in the community and two in five people living in care homes experience depression or poor mental health.
Research shows that there are five key issues that can have an impact on the mental wellbeing of older people:
Discrimination
Participation in meaningful activities
Relationships
Physical health
Poverty
Even though there are laws in place to help with some of these issues – for instance, the Equality Act 2010 addresses age discrimination – you may feel that you can’t influence society-wide problems like pensioner poverty. However, as an individual, there is a lot you can do to protect your own mental wellbeing.
The following are 10 practical ways to help you stay mentally well:-
1. Be prepared for changes
Getting older and retirement both involve a change in lifestyle for most people.
Ready to retire?
There is no longer a compulsory retirement age, with the default age of 65 having been phased out. It is important to note that retirement age is not the same as state pension age, which can range between 65 and 66 in Ireland depending on gender and date of birth.
The age of retirement is decided by the employee, because not everyone feels ready to retire at the same time. If you want, or need, to keep working, discuss this with your employer. Or, you may see this as an opportunity to work part time, change to flexible working hours, or find a new job.
The law is evolving in this area, so follow relevant Employment links for current information.
Still busy
Being retired doesn’t mean you aren’t still busy. Being retired (or semi-retired) can be a busy life. Friends and family can have plans for your time, filling it with anything from childcare to DIY tasks. It is important to make time for your own interests. This can be a chance to try a new activity or learn new skills.
Sense of purpose
If your work or career is a major part of your life, consider how to deal with the changes to:
The social aspect of your life if your job also provided friendships
Your sense of self-worth and self-esteem if you felt valued at work
Your financial security
If you haven’t had many interests outside of work it can be hard to ‘find something new to do’ and it may take a few attempts before you find something that’s right for you. Take your time and think about the skills you possess that can be put to good use and give you fulfilment – perhaps try helping out with a local community organisation or doing conservation work.
With others
Social interaction is important for maintaining your wellbeing. If you are used to sharing life’s ups and downs with others at work, keep up friendships once you retire. Others who are your age are great sounding boards for dealing with the challenges of retirement and can understand the transition into retirement. You should also look to develop new friendships with people of all ages. Friendships with both older and younger people help to keep you in touch with the world as it changes.
Misconceptions
Some people do develop mental health problems or conditions, such as depression, dementia or memory loss, as they get older, but it isn’t an inevitable part of old age. However, if you think you are developing a mental health problem or condition, don’t worry and just take action, as there are treatments available.
If you are worried about your memory, or dementia, speak to your GP.
You might think that pursuing new learning and work is just for young people, but volunteering, career changes and returning to education are becoming more popular with people over 50. Many organisations depend on the skills and experience that older people possess. Don’t dismiss volunteering as for ‘do-gooders’: many people can tell you it’s an essential part of getting work experience. Volunteering can even be good for your health.
2. Talk about problems and concerns
Managing problems, difficulties and worries becomes easier if we talk about our concerns. It’s a good way to rationalise our thoughts and make sense of a situation or of how we feel. It can make us feel supported and not alone.
Who to talk to
Who you want to talk with depends on what’s worrying you. You could try:
Friends and family
Someone with specialist knowledge – perhaps someone with financial planning experience if you are struggling to meet the bills
An impartial person – for instance, for concerns about care for your partner
A person who promises confidentiality, such as a counsellor
Say what you feel
Talking about problems and concerns doesn’t mean you have to discuss your emotions, or lay yourself completely bare about how you’re feeling. Some people may find this helpful, while others prefer to keep conversations on a practical level. Talking about how you feel, or your emotions, isn’t a sign of weakness: it’s about taking charge of your wellbeing.
Listen and learn
Having a chat is never a one-way street. Sharing your thoughts can help others find the courage to talk about their problems. If you don’t want to talk about yourself, ask others how they feel.
Hearing that others have similar worries and thoughts can make it easier to discuss something that’s bothering you.
Everyday event
Being able to talk with others should be an everyday event. Don’t put off having a chat, and avoid building it up to be a big event, like ‘we must talk about the wills’, as this can make it daunting for you and the other person. An ongoing conversation over days or weeks allows everyone time to think and give considered input.
‘Conversations don’t have to be all about life’s difficulties. Tell each other about the enjoyable events too!’
3. Ask for help
Who do we ask or where do we go when we need help or advice?
Friends and family
Support from friends and family is invaluable. However, they may lack the specialist knowledge you need despite their best intentions.
Practical help
Whether you need help fixing a leaky gutter or with managing limited finances, the following organisations can either help you directly or point you in the right direction.
Age action groups offers online and phone support on hundreds of topics, from making a will and care in your own home, to keeping active and learning to use the Internet.
The Citizens Advice service helps people resolve their legal, money and other problems by providing free, independent and confidential advice.
Local councils offer services from adult education and parking permits for disabled people to housing grants and waste disposal, many of which are specifically for older residents.
Government websites provide information on a range of social and legal issues, such as trading standards, dealing with doorstep sales, reporting antisocial behaviour and finding local health services, as well as providing help for understanding money, tax, benefits and pensions.
Emotional help
Admitting that times are emotionally tough isn’t easy. Asking for help can be harder. Difficult feelings can stop you from getting on with life. Feeling down or anxious for prolonged periods doesn’t just impact on you, but can also affect those around you; for instance, if your mood or reactions are unpredictable.
Samaritans provides confidential, non-judgmental emotional support 24 hours a day.
Bereavement Care Services promote the wellbeing of anyone affected by bereavement and enables bereaved people to understand their grief and cope with their loss.
Your GP can help in practical ways, as well as offering a listening ear; for instance, they can recommend exercise therapy, counselling, help from a specialist, or support from another part of the health service.
Counselling offers the opportunity to talk about issues in confidence and to create a structured plan to make a positive change to your life.
Online
As well as advice from official sources, such as those given above, Internet forums, chatrooms and networking sites can allow you to share your own experiences with others facing the same issues.
Some local councils offer training courses in using email and the Internet.
‘Your GP can help in practical ways, as well as offering a listening ear; for instance, they can recommend exercise therapy, counselling, help from a specialist, or support from another part of the health service.’
4. Think ahead and have a plan
Allowing an issue to become a constant worry can be bad for our mental wellbeing. Having a plan to deal with it puts us back in charge and can help improve how we feel.
What needs planning?
These are some things that can cause worry as you get older:
Retirement
Staying active, having a healthy life, and mobility
The physical and mental health of ourselves and others
Pensions and financial considerations
Access to local facilities and transport
Remaining independent and having control over our own life
Caring for ourselves and others
Wills, end of life, and funerals
It is also important to plan for pleasurable things, such as spending time with family, developing new hobbies, and enjoying your leisure time. If you don’t have a plan for your time, you may find that others plan it for you.
What a plan can do
A plan can help you think through all the aspects of a problem or situation. By preparing a plan, you are likely to expose and deal with many of your worries in advance.
You may need to do some research, like finding out about the state pension, National Insurance top ups, pension credits, and buying an annuity.
The government’s websites are a good place to start when fact-finding.
Your plan should have a clear aim, such as staying active. A regular review of your plan helps to make sure you are still on track.
Include in your plan the sort of feelings you could experience and how you could deal with them. Discussing wills or care needs with loved ones may be emotional – how will you react?
Use your plan
How you use a plan is up to you – it’s for your benefit. Consider whether you want to write it down or not. This may depend on whether you want to share it with others.
By having a plan, you always have something to refer back to and to use when you face a problem.
Be flexible
Of course, not everything can be planned for, and plans need to change as situations alter; for example, a change to the benefit system may affect your financial planning. Review and amend your plans as you need to.
Dwight Eisenhower said, "planning is everything, the plan is nothing." I didn't know what he meant until recently. Often times the eventual plan is out of date due to unforeseen changes. However, the very process of the planning to derive the plan, leaves one better positioned to incorporate changes and derive a new plan.
5. Care for others
As we get older, we may find ourselves looking after grandchildren, elderly parents, partners, friends, or neighbours. Caring for others can keep relationships strong and people close.
Helping others makes us feel needed and valued, as well as boosting our self-esteem. These things are good for our mental wellbeing.
What type of care?
Care could be looking after your grandchildren during school holidays, or the long-term and full-time care of your partner or elderly parents. Being a carer isn’t always easy. Many find it demanding both physically and emotionally.
Looking after a loved one whose mental and/or physical health is deteriorating can present extra challenges for carers. If this issue affects you, contact your GP, or your local social services. There is help and support widely available.
Who cares for us?
Caring for others can be rewarding, such as seeing your grandchildren taking their first steps or sharing a laugh with a neighbour. However, there can be stresses and strains along the way.
Try not to overburden yourself with care responsibilities. Hard though it seems, it is alright to say ‘no’. Making time for yourself is good both for you and for the person you care for.
If you feel under pressure to keep saying ‘yes’, then contact local and web sources for advice or help with respite care to enable you to recharge your batteries.
A local carers’ support group may help to make you feel less isolated with your responsibilities. Talking with other carers helps to release frustrations, as they understand the pressures that caring can bring. There can also be opportunities to share resources, skills and knowledge so that everyone (other carers and the people you care for) benefits. Your GP or local council may know of local groups, services and facilities.
Caring community
If you are interested in helping care for others locally, then voluntary organisations would be glad to hear from you. Voluntary schemes offer a range of help to people in the community; for instance, meals on wheels.
6. Keep in touch
Friends
Friends can keep you on track when life is difficult. They can offer a different view on a problem as well as practical help, or can be a sounding board for your thoughts.
Friendship takes time, and sometimes effort. It is easy to lose touch with people, especially if their life seems too busy for you or if you are feeling down. Having friends is a positive way to maintain good emotional health, even when doing so may sometimes seem like hard work.
Don’t lose touch with the people who are important to you – it’s never too late to get back in touch with old friends.
Small world
You may have friends and family scattered around the country or world. Explore keeping in touch by phone, email, webcam, Skype, Facebook, or letter.
The world’s not what it used to be
The world is constantly changing, and you are not alone if you feel out of step with it. Technology has had a big impact on the way we communicate. You may feel that the values and attitudes you have are no longer respected. But not everyone from the younger generation lives up to their media reputation.
Keeping in touch with people from other generations can help to keep this in perspective and can make you realise that there are like-minded people of all ages.
Consider volunteering with youth work, chatting more with friends’ grandchildren, or helping out at a local school.
Having friends of your own generation is important, too. They can better understand life from your perspective. Plus, it’s good to reminisce sometimes about old TV favourites or the types of cars you used to own.
Old and new
If you’re used to a close circle of friends at work, will you keep in touch when you retire? You may find that work friends were great when you shared common problems, but that the friendship changes when you no longer work together.
Don’t shy away from making new friends – perhaps through a new shared interest, such as walking, travelling or reading.
Friendships do change with time. Sometimes it is difficult to give the time we want to every friendship. Friendships can go sour for many reasons. If a friendship starts to hurt you, mentally or physically, then don’t be afraid to take a break from it, or end it.
Is it good now?
Keeping in touch with friends is also about considering what is good for them. Don’t be offended if your children can’t talk when you phone at 6.30pm as they sit down for a family meal or are starting to help with their own children’s homework. Likewise, calling people when they are at work won’t always get the best result; try meeting them for lunch instead. Similarly, if you don’t want to be called after 9.00pm because it’s time to get ready for bed, let your loved ones know!
7. Be active and sleep well
Staying active and sleeping well are proven ways to look after our wellbeing.
Physical activity
Regular physical activity and exercise can:
Boost self-esteem, raise self-worth and improve confidence
Promote good sleep patterns
Provide a meaningful activity
Offer a chance to meet people
Be something that you really enjoy doing
Being active doesn’t necessarily mean going to the gym; t’ai chi, Pilates, gardening, dog walking, dancing, or being part of a walking group are all good ways to get some exercise. Being active doesn’t have to cost much money. Many councils offer activities at lower rates for older people.
The Mental Health Foundation booklet ‘How to look after your mental health using exercise’ suggests ways that you can get active and stay active.
Physical activity can be as effective as anti-depressant medication in treating mild to moderate depression.
Sleep
Getting a good night’s sleep allows your body and mind to rest, repair and re-energise. Not sleeping well can cause a range of problems, including:
Poor concentration
Low mood
Irritability
A weakened immune system
In the longer term, trouble sleeping can lead to mental health problems such as anxiety, stress and depression.
Sleep patterns can change with age and may be influenced by:
Caffeine or alcohol intake
Pain
Medication
The need to go to the toilet
Good sleep doesn’t just mean lots of sleep, as the amount of sleep that each person needs is different. The Mental Health Foundation’s booklet ‘Sleep Well’ suggests ways that you can improve your sleep. You can also talk to your GP about sleep problems, as they may be able to change your medication or suggest solutions to other health issues that may be keeping you awake.
Mentally active
Keeping your mind active is important, too. There are many ways of doing this, such as:
Tackling puzzles, like crosswords, Sudoku or word searches
Playing games, like chess, bridge or bingo
Reading a book, magazine or newspaper
Going on a course or learning a new skill
Using your memory instead of writing a list
Using mental arithmetic instead of a calculator
Playing a musical instrument, if you can
8. Eat and drink sensibly
What we eat and drink affects how we feel. Sometimes there’s an immediate effect, for instance with alcohol. Other things we consume can have long-term impacts.
Balanced and healthy
The human body and mind needs a mix of nutrients to work properly. Eating at least five portions of fruit and vegetables each day is recommended, and is a vital part of a healthy diet.
Stay hydrated
Stopping your body from dehydrating is important, whatever the weather. You may want to consider limiting your intake of sugary drinks, caffeine, and alcohol as, in excess, they can have a negative effect on your wellbeing.
Moderate drinking
The odd alcoholic drink is unlikely to harm you if you drink them in moderation and if alcohol doesn’t conflict with any medication you are taking. Stay within the recommended daily alcohol units.
Popping to the pub or club for a drink can be a good social experience, but solitary habitual drinking is often a sign of a problem. Drinking alcohol is not a good way to manage difficult feelings.
Social experience
Sharing food or a drink is an enjoyable social event. Make it a reason to meet up with friends, even if it’s just for a cuppa in the local café.
Eating properly when coping with bereavement can be difficult, especially if you are not used to cooking for one or preparing meals at all. During this time, your appetite may be affected by your emotions. Try not to eat alone all the time. Take up offers from friends and family to eat with them. Find out if there are any lunchtime clubs that operate in your area, perhaps as part of a reading group or other interest groups.
9. Do things that you enjoy
Doing things that we enjoy makes us feel good about ourselves and about life; plus, it can keep our mind and body active. Whatever we call them, interests, hobbies and pastimes can provide a chance to socialise, or to find time for ourselves.
Work
Some people enjoy their work so much that they don’t want to retire. Explore the options with your employer. As there is no longer a default retirement age, there are a number of options available to explore.
Something new
If work has taken up most of your life, it may be time to look around for a new interest to immerse yourself in. Meaningful activity is vital for good emotional health, so try to start new activities before you retire. Don’t be scared to try a few things before settling on the ones that you enjoy.
‘Sometimes when I’m sitting on the bus, I let my thoughts flow and it really helps me.’
You may have skills to share with others. Look at local volunteering options, or join a specialist interest group. Time Bank is a skill-share scheme where you benefit from other people’s skills in exchange for your own. Or you may want to learn new skills or develop an old one. Local councils and universities run a range of education and learning opportunities, often at lower rates for older people.
Companionship
Pets make wonderful companions and can bring social benefits, too. Walking the dog gives you daily exercise, is a reason to go out, and is a way of meeting people. House rabbits love to play, and cats crave a warm lap to curl up on.
Your local vet or the RSPCA can advise about the best type of pet for you.
Your interests
Always make time for your own hobbies and interests. If you are a busy carer, you must still find time for your own interests in order to look after your own wellbeing.
10. Relax and have a break
While being retired or semi-retired may appear to others to be a permanent holiday, the reality is different. There are still jobs that need doing, like cleaning, car repairs, financial paperwork, and shopping. Plus, we may have new responsibilities as a carer.
Break from routine
Creating a routine for your day or week can give life a structure or rhythm. However, a break from this refreshes the mental batteries.
Plan free time in your weekly routines for things you enjoy, whether it’s time in the park or in the art gallery.
A break needn’t be long: just time for what you enjoy and for letting your mind recharge. Look at how you spend your time. Can you find half an hour each day to pick up a book or sit with a crossword? What about every week? Is there time for an afternoon out?
Taking a break can be:
A couple of hours away one afternoon
An evening at the theatre
A day trip
A midweek venture
A two-week cruise
It’s whatever relaxes you and helps you take a break.
Cost
Having a break need not cost a fortune. There are many bargains to be had – sometimes for booking well in advance, others for those who book last-minute. Some travel companies offer special rates for older people. Make use of your Irish free travel pass for public transport for over 66s? Are there lower rates or free entrance to local attractions?
Learn to relax
You may find it hard to relax if you feel under pressure to be doing something else. This can be because you feel guilty about not caring for others, or because you aren’t used to having time to spend on yourself.
Right for you
Relaxing doesn’t have to be about sitting down or physically relaxing. It’s about doing something you enjoy.
Having a hectic life may mean you want time alone when you have a break. Or do you want the company of others to stimulate your mind and make you think of things other than the stresses of life? Having a break can be a chance to meet new people and explore interests. It can be as active or as restful as you want – from a pottery course or learning first aid, to a walking weekend or trying paragliding
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